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Hating someone is one of the biggest stressors in life. The more mature you become, the easier it gets to maintain healthy professional relationships.But sometimes the difficulties dealing with another person become overwhelming. We all think that the good is because of us, and the bad is because of the other.If you need to have a conversation with someone you have a problematic professional relationship with, try this: Let go of trying to control their reaction. It’s liberating for the other person to have the space to react however they need to, and takes a huge amount of pressure off you. Prepare for their response. Imagine they respond in the most difficult manner , and ask yourself “what do I think this says about me?” Imagine that it’s three months or ten years from now. Project yourself into the future and get perspective. What did you learn from that experience? Take a break. If you are too close to the problem or too overwhelmed, give yourself some time to think. Even 10 minutes can help. Check for denials and exaggerations. What’s the worst can happen?From the book „How to have difficult conversations“ by Sheila Heen.This is a sensitive topic but very coachable! The key is that to realize that we are part of the problem, and therefore part of the solution.
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